Updated: January 8, 2018
Moments with God: 4 Questions to Ask When You Feel Like God is Far Away
Do you feel like God isn’t listening to you anymore? Like, somehow you no longer feel His presence? Have you ever wondered why? There will be a moment or moments in your walk with the Lord when you feel like He is far away. It can be due to different reasons. One of the reasons I have found, is when we are involved in sexual sin.
Since our bodies are the temple of God, “Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God?” (1 Cor. 6:19), there will be conflict within us when we are not being obedient to God’s command in this area.
This conflict translates to God feeling far away. However, God’s presence has not changed because He does not change, “I am the LORD, and I do not change (Mal. 3:6)”, its our hearts that have run away. We in fact have changed our position while the Lord waits in His.
So what do we do? Sometimes when you’ve been sitting in this deception for so long, we desperately need a fresh perspective, a breath of fresh air. Let’s look at it like this, what if we took this time of your life and used it for what its supposed to be used for? A chance for an honest and deeper relationship with God, a chance for God to help you get to know Him, really know Him (Jer. 9:23-24), a chance to pursue Him as He has pursued you (Psalm 139:1-18), a chance to experience Him in a real way, and a chance for Him to remind you of your worth and His everlasting love for you (Jer. 31:3).
Any relationship that has depth requires time and becomes more significant through trial, “I love those who love me, and those who seek me diligently find me (Prov. 8:17).
This includes your relationship with God. He is a relational God and because we were created in His image and likeness we are in the relationship business too!
Here are some suggestions and questions to help start the conversation that needs to be had, probably for a long time coming now. These are just some suggestions that have helped me, feel free to add on, and make it more personal to you.
I pray it will deal with those wounds and the deception you have sat in for too long. I pray this will be the beginning to a beautiful journey of healing, restoration, new inspiration, and whatever is lacking or has completely been destroyed in your relationship with God.
Lets start with this truth and then head on to the suggestions and questions, He is NOT far away.
There are several scriptures that declare and confirm this truth, “Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; ?I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand (see also Isa. 41:10, also Deut. 31:8, Josh. 1:9, Matt. 28:20, Heb. 4:16). He is there. Yes, even if you made mistakes, even if you still feel like running, even if you feel like you’ve gone too far!
One step in repentance erases a thousand steps of disobedience.
How do we get to a place of repentance (asking for forgiveness and reestablishing your relationship with Christ)? Lets break it down:
1) Set aside personal alone time–
Take real time away from EVERYONE and sit with God. Think and decide on a time, place, and area. It’s hard to hear from Him when we are so busy with life (Psalm 32:6). So shut off your phone, turn off the TV, and just focus in.
Write down any scriptures you find and record this journey as a whole. Sometimes it’s good to get down on paper what’s been on your mind and nice to look back at how far along you’ve come. Write it ALL out. Doubts, anger, hurt, whatever comes to mind. It’s ok, he can handle it.
3) Address the questions–
Ask away. You are the son or daughter of the Almighty King. We are allowed and welcomed to enter His courts with our questions (John 16:24). He wants them because HE has the answers.
4) Search and wait for the answer–
God speaks to us in many ways. Be on the look out for the answer but make sure it lines up with biblical truth (1 John 4:1). It can be through dreams, sermons, Godly people in our life, etc.
5) Be patient–
Your answer may come right away or it may take a while. It might take one session or many sessions. Don’t give God a time limit or it will limit your time with God (Psalm 27:13-14). Also, remember sometimes the answer is simply trusting God even if there isn’t one.
6) Keep going before your God until there is peace–
Sometimes we get the answer we seek and other times all we get is peace. Be okay with the peace (Philip. 4:7). It is a gift from God.
1) Are you angry with God?
Is there a deep wound that hasn’t been addressed with God? Why did this person have to die? Why didn’t this relationship work out? Why am I raising this baby by myself? Is there a question in your heart that you are desperate to know? Is this question causing anger? Why?
Anger tends to be the result of hurt, an open wound. It is the flower and not the root.
2) What do you believe about God?
I asked this question second because sometimes our pain is too real and it can be deafening or desensitizing to the Voice of God. Its better to work out the first question and then come to sit with this one. Again I’ll ask, what do you believe about God?
Its one thing to say you believe in God but WHAT do you believe about Him?
For instance, do you believe Him when He says He loves you and because He never changes and He Himself IS love, His love will never change for you? (I know that is a mouthful..you might want to reread that..loll)
Taking time to LEARN about the attributes of God is putting work into the MOST important relationship of all. Take a systematic theology class (it teaches you in depth about your faith), buy the book and study it on your own, or ask for help in studying it outside of a classroom setting.
3) Are your mistakes or the trauma that has happened to you bigger than your God?
Really ask yourself these questions. Are the mistakes you’ve made, regardless of how many, too much for God to handle? Did the death of Christ on the cross not cover all of those? Whether it’s a big mistake or a whole bunch of mistakes, did His death not cover ALL of them?
Have you accepted Him as your Lord and Savior over ALL these things?
Do you know that your God is bigger than ANY trauma and will help you move on to the next second, minute, day of your life? “But in all these things we overwhelmingly conquer through Him who loved us. For I am convinced that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor things present, nor things to come, nor powers, nor height, nor depth, nor any other created thing, will be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord” (Rom. 8: 37-39). What truth can you find in this scripture?
4) Is there anything else you are hanging onto that you can’t seem to let go?
Sometimes we hold back the hard questions because we may feel like God doesn’t care, we don’t want to make Him angry or be disrespectful, or we don’t know HOW to ask Him the hard questions.
What is a hard question? It could be anything that feels stuck in your spirit. Maybe you want to know why you got raped, maybe you want to know why a breakup had to happen, or maybe you read something in the bible you don’t agree with.
What is this question to you? If you don’t want to go there, why not? Is it too painful? Do you not trust that God has healing for you? This goes back to Question #2. What do you believe about God?
Again, this is just a starting ground to help close the gap between you and God. Make it personal! I pray this time will be a time of healing, restoration, and peace for you to move forward another day. I pray this will help you step back in the future and the plans He has for you, “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future” (Jer. 29:11). I pray the Lord will send you a group of amazing, life speaking, encouraging, and supporting people to help you on this journey of healing but first take time for you and your Creator!
Baskets of Blessings!